Vulvas love mind-blowing oral sex.
So why don’t we talk about oral sex more often? Even if you have a pretty good idea of what’s what down there, a refresher never hurts. After all, women are more likely to orgasm from oral sex than intercourse. Consider this, less than 20 percent of women are able to orgasm just by penetration alone. It’s time to close the orgasm gap, don’t you think?
Oral sex is all about clitoral stimulation, which is exactly what it takes to orgasm.
Ready to up your odds? Here are five fun, sexy techniques.
Be a Tease
Ready to dive in? Resist the urge.
Yup, you read that right. Rather than zeroing in on the clitoris, use your fingers and tease your partner over her undies (or dress / or jeans / whatever she’s wearing) with your fingers. More blood flow will be directed to the area to max out sensitivity and arousal. It’s really hot too.
Experiment: Caress her inner thighs, and gradually work your way up to her genitals. Try pressing harder. Use feedback, such as a hand over yours, as your guide. Playfully pass a toy over her underwear. Switch onto a low setting and move the toy up from her inner thighs, labia, and clitoris.
Prolong the Tease
Insert one finger and slowly pulse up and down. Add another, perhaps a third or maybe even a fourth. Make sure you pay attention to feedback and moaning, heavy breathing, “more,” and other pleasure indicators.
Experiment: Ride the wave and stimulate the G-spot, located on the front wall of the vaginal canal, about two inches up. Pulse your fingers against the general area, but don’t stress out about whether you’re in the exact right place. See where the move takes you. Backing off a bit before you start over again works too. Make her ask for more?
Add Tongue and Toys
Remove your fingers, whether she’s lying down or standing up, and kiss her inner thighs and labia. At just the right moment (think threshold for sexual frustration), lightly and slowly lick her clitoris. Sucking, adding fingers back, tongue circles… anything goes that gets her excited.
Experiment: Alternate tongue and toys. You can move toys between her legs, on her genitals, even on the perineum - super sensitive skin that stretches between her vaginal opening and anus - as you go down on her. Toys are your secret weapon for oral bliss.
Try a Twist on Traditional Oral
Ever heard of the Kivin Method? It’s a different perspective on oral sex - literally. It’s perpendicular oral sex. Licking horizontally instead of vertically hits more nerve endings and reduces the chances that you’ll make her clitoris numb.
Experiment: Have your partner lay down and approach her vulva from the side instead of from between her legs. Get into position, and then raise the clitoris and keep it in place while you lick with your index finger and thumb. YOu may even find two small bumps on each side of the clitoral hood. These bumps are called “K points.” Use your tongue to gently sweep across these areas if you can feel them. If not, don't worry. K points aren’t detectable in everyone.
You can try different oral techniques like making circles, licking up-and-down, and sucking. If your partner tells you not to stop, though, she’s probably about to come. Repetitive movements help facilitate orgasms, so keep doing exactly what you’ve been doing.
Have Your Partner Kneel Down
Ready to get kinky?
Try face sitting. You lie down, while your partner kneels on top of you. Whoa, that’s stimulation. Don’t worry, though, it’s not a full-on sit. You’ll still be able to breathe.
Experiment: Lay flat on your back near a headboard or wall. The receiver will kneel down, straddle your face, and use their hands on the headboard / wall for support. You’ll be hands-free, so put them to good use. Hold her hips, caress her breasts or chest, squeeze her nipples. Whatever you both like. If it works for both of you, it’s a good time for Dom from the bottom.
Got the jist of it? Feeling ready to help your partner have out-of-this-world orgasms? Sure, there are a zillion ways to make a vulva happy, but these five are among my absolute favs. Now, stop reading and get busy. It’s time to get to know her clitoris… enjoy the collab!