Lube gets a bad rap for being something you only reach for when things feel dry. But truthfully? Lubricant makes everything feel better, period. More sensation, less friction, and a whole lot more fun.
Valentine's Day is the perfect excuse to get creative with how you use it. Whether you're spending the evening with a partner or enjoying some quality solo time, a good lube can take your night from nice to unforgettable. Here are 10 simple, sexy ways to put it to work.
1. Start With a Sensual Massage
Foreplay that starts with touch sets the tone for the entire night. A slow, full-body massage builds anticipation while helping both of you relax and connect.
Use a body and massage oil that's safe for intimate areas. Warm a few drops between your palms and work your way from the shoulders down. Pay attention to the neck, inner thighs, and lower back. Let the massage go wherever it naturally leads.
2. Use It During Foreplay (Before Any Penetration)
Most people wait until penetration to pull out the lube. Skip the wait. Adding a water-based lubricant during foreplay makes every touch feel more intense.
A small amount on the vulva and clitoris during manual stimulation changes the entire experience. Less friction means more sensation, and your body responds to that difference right away.
3. Make Hand Jobs and Fingering Way Better
Dry hands plus sensitive skin is not a great combination. A generous amount of lube on your fingertips and your partner's body turns basic manual play into something much more enjoyable.
For fingering, apply lube to both the vulva and your fingers. For hand jobs, coat your palms and adjust your grip. You can vary speed and pressure without worrying about uncomfortable friction.
4. Add It to Your Favorite Toy
Vibrators, massagers, and other toys all work better with lube. A personal lubricant reduces drag on the skin and helps toys glide smoothly.
A few things to keep in mind:
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Water-based lubes are compatible with all toy materials, including silicone
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Apply lube directly to the toy and to your body for the best results
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Reapply as needed, especially during longer play sessions
5. Upgrade Your Oral Game
Dry mouth happens, and nobody wants to deal with that mid-moment. A small amount of unflavored, water-based lubeapplied to the vulva before oral sex keeps things comfortable for the giver and more pleasurable for the receiver.
If your partner enjoys giving oral, a flavored lubricant can also make the experience more enjoyable for them. Just check the ingredients and avoid anything with glycerin for vaginal use afterward.
6. Warm It Up for a Temperature Twist
Cold lube straight from the bottle can be a mood killer. Take 10 seconds to warm a few drops between your palms before applying. That small step makes a big difference.
You can also try placing the bottle in a mug of warm water for a few minutes beforehand. The gentle warmth adds a new layer of sensation that pairs perfectly with a Valentine's evening.
7. Bring It Into the Shower
Shower sex sounds romantic until water washes away all your natural lubrication. That's just how water works, and it's completely normal.
A silicone-based or oil-based intimacy oil won't rinse off the way water-based options do, making it ideal for any steamy shower moments. Just use a non-slip mat and go slow.
8. Try It for a Slow, Teasing Buildup
Instead of jumping straight to the main event, use lube as part of a slow buildup. Apply a small amount and have your partner use just their fingertips to trace circles around your most sensitive areas.
The combination of slippery touch and light pressure creates a teasing sensation that builds arousal gradually. Take turns and focus on different erogenous zones:
- Inner thighs
- Neck and collarbone
- Behind the ears
- Lower stomach
9. Make Solo Play Extra Special
Valentine's Day is just as much about self-love. If you're spending the evening on your own terms, a good lube and your favorite vibrating massager can make for a very satisfying night.
Apply lube before using any toy or your hands. You'll notice the difference in comfort and sensation immediately. Put on something you enjoy watching or listening to, light a candle, and take your time.
10. Use It During Penetrative Sex (Obviously)
Saving the most obvious for last. Whether you produce a lot of natural lubrication or very little, adding lube during penetrative sex makes the experience better for everyone involved.
Apply a dime-sized amount to the vulva, the penis or toy, or both. Start with less and add more as you go. You want enough glide that everything feels smooth without losing all sensation.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Q. Can you use too much lube?
Not really. You can always wipe away excess with a towel. Most people actually use too little. Start small and add more until everything feels comfortable and slippery.
Q. What type of lube is best for Valentine's Day?
Water-based lubes work with all toys and condoms. Oil-based options last longer and feel silkier. Pick based on how you plan to use it and what feels best for your body.
Q. Is lube safe to use with condoms?
Water-based and silicone-based lubes are safe with latex condoms. Oil-based lubricants can weaken latex, so skip those if you're using latex protection.
Q. Does using lube mean something is wrong with me?
Absolutely not. Natural lubrication varies based on hormones, stress, hydration, medications, and where you are in your cycle. Lube simply makes sex more comfortable and pleasurable for everyone.
Q. Can I use lube for solo play?
Yes. Lube works great with vibrators, massagers, and manual stimulation. A water-based formula is your safest choice when using toys made from any material.
Q. How do I bring up using lube with my partner?
Keep it simple and positive. Frame it as something fun you want to try together, not as fixing a problem. Most partners are open to anything that makes the experience better for both of you.
